Look at me: I gotta case of body language, Freddie Mercury / Queen
Can you attract another person with your body language? According to the studies of human communication 55% of information is conveyed with gestures and mimic, 38% is passed with the aid of frequency of speech and intonations, while only 7% is passed through the meaning of words. Who taught us to speak like this? Was Darwin right about our ancestors? Maybe, but this is not a matter of this article. The matter is: how exactly can one person attract another with body language, is it just like Freddie sang it some years ago?
Look in the eyes. When we are getting into a formal conversation on a business meeting we may feel like we are looking right into the eyes of our opponent. In reality, our eyes are scanning the face of a person along a narrow cyclic path: left eye - space between the eyes - right eye. When we are talking with a friend, our eyes do the same, but the scanning path gets wider: line below eye level of the person - nose - mouth, and up (overall the path makes an overturned triangle with a base drown below person eye-line).
A joyful, flirting chattering makes the eye scan area even wider. This time, especially if any sexual interest is present, the center of the area will be at the lips of the person you are talking with. So, if a person you are talking to seemingly cannot lift his (or her) eyes from your lips, you better know this person is likely already kissing you in his (or her) imagination. How far you want to proceed in reality will be now up to you, since you already got the signals.
Ape me, baby. How body language can show a difference between a light, playful and a strong, passionate sexual attraction? The passion can be revealed through total mimicking of the object of desire. Meaning of it? Probably, to show that if you copy a person, you have or aspire to have a lot in common with him (or her). The origin of this signaling behavior can be a bit deeper, but how can we tell it now? Good news is that we can use it. Of course, such thing should be used moderately, without getting into complete copycatting, when all features, good and bad alike are reproduced: this can be perceived as a mockery. Also, it is always good to hold at least for a minute, before taking your turn on repetitive gesture.
Eyebrows greeting. Lift your eyebrows if you want to show a person your sympathy. It will be nice to get the same sign in reply, since its meaning is I like you too. This language is in our genes, not in dictionaries. Who knows how many generations of our predecessors used this sign as a signal I am your friend and you are welcome here, there are enough room and food in this cave for everyone, feel free to join us!
Where the eyes rest. Watching another person movements (hands and feet) is a general sign of an interest. Seem like a trivial notion, but it is one of the strongest statements of body language. If this person (whom you were watching) notices and moves towards you: the interest is mutual. This is a moment when the body language usually turns into a spoken one!
Wink me back! Have you ever exchanged winks with someone? Wink is a sign of an interest and attraction. No surprise that it is used in the dating networks as an invitation for a chat. Same is in the offline world. If you see someone who is interesting to you, wink her (him). Got wink in reply? Start talking. - 14915
Can you attract another person with your body language? According to the studies of human communication 55% of information is conveyed with gestures and mimic, 38% is passed with the aid of frequency of speech and intonations, while only 7% is passed through the meaning of words. Who taught us to speak like this? Was Darwin right about our ancestors? Maybe, but this is not a matter of this article. The matter is: how exactly can one person attract another with body language, is it just like Freddie sang it some years ago?
Look in the eyes. When we are getting into a formal conversation on a business meeting we may feel like we are looking right into the eyes of our opponent. In reality, our eyes are scanning the face of a person along a narrow cyclic path: left eye - space between the eyes - right eye. When we are talking with a friend, our eyes do the same, but the scanning path gets wider: line below eye level of the person - nose - mouth, and up (overall the path makes an overturned triangle with a base drown below person eye-line).
A joyful, flirting chattering makes the eye scan area even wider. This time, especially if any sexual interest is present, the center of the area will be at the lips of the person you are talking with. So, if a person you are talking to seemingly cannot lift his (or her) eyes from your lips, you better know this person is likely already kissing you in his (or her) imagination. How far you want to proceed in reality will be now up to you, since you already got the signals.
Ape me, baby. How body language can show a difference between a light, playful and a strong, passionate sexual attraction? The passion can be revealed through total mimicking of the object of desire. Meaning of it? Probably, to show that if you copy a person, you have or aspire to have a lot in common with him (or her). The origin of this signaling behavior can be a bit deeper, but how can we tell it now? Good news is that we can use it. Of course, such thing should be used moderately, without getting into complete copycatting, when all features, good and bad alike are reproduced: this can be perceived as a mockery. Also, it is always good to hold at least for a minute, before taking your turn on repetitive gesture.
Eyebrows greeting. Lift your eyebrows if you want to show a person your sympathy. It will be nice to get the same sign in reply, since its meaning is I like you too. This language is in our genes, not in dictionaries. Who knows how many generations of our predecessors used this sign as a signal I am your friend and you are welcome here, there are enough room and food in this cave for everyone, feel free to join us!
Where the eyes rest. Watching another person movements (hands and feet) is a general sign of an interest. Seem like a trivial notion, but it is one of the strongest statements of body language. If this person (whom you were watching) notices and moves towards you: the interest is mutual. This is a moment when the body language usually turns into a spoken one!
Wink me back! Have you ever exchanged winks with someone? Wink is a sign of an interest and attraction. No surprise that it is used in the dating networks as an invitation for a chat. Same is in the offline world. If you see someone who is interesting to you, wink her (him). Got wink in reply? Start talking. - 14915
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